7 Incredible Ways to Fall Out of Love With an Ex
The person you loved has ended the relationship. Whether your relationship lasted a month or many years, the pain of a breakup can be unique and heart-wrenching.
You may feel stuck and unable to move past your feelings. You cannot seem to get out of the headspace where you’re still in love with your ex. It doesn’t feel good. Having a part of your mind not want to move on is a drag.
If this is you, here are some ideas to help you move on from your former partner in a healthy and productive way.
Try these techniques to fall out of love with your ex:
- Accept that they are no longer a part of your life. If you’re unable to accept this, no technique or remedy will ever work. Delete old photos and messages. Throw away or hide everything that reminds you of your ex. If you can’t see these things and refresh your memories, they will get blurrier in your mind.
- Be truly honest with yourself and accept that the person is no longer in your life. That is the first step to moving on.
- Break contact as much as possible. Limit contact and exposure to them either in person or via social media. Better still, get off social media. The couples there are only going to make you feel bad.
- The “no contact” rule is one of the most important rules to follow when recovering from an ex. Zero contact. None. So many people can’t follow this rule and live in perpetual heartbreak. It will be even more challenging to do this if you fixate you on being friends with your ex.
- Even if you want to stay friends, it’s still better to have no contact for a free weeks or months to heal all the wounds caused by the breakup. Get the person out of your head by getting the person out of your life.
- The “no contact” rule is one of the most important rules to follow when recovering from an ex. Zero contact. None. So many people can’t follow this rule and live in perpetual heartbreak. It will be even more challenging to do this if you fixate you on being friends with your ex.
- Write a list. On one side, list the things you miss about them. On the other side, list the things you’re glad you don’t have to deal with anymore. Write about all the things that you didn’t like about your ex. Read it over. Accept that it wouldn’t have worked out in the long run.
- Throw the list of the things you miss away. Keep the list with the things you don’t have to deal with anymore close. Continue to remind yourself of why the relationship ended. You often realize that the person you broke up with differs from the person you fell in love with.
- Pick up a new hobby. You may hear this advice around a lot. Why? Because it works. Moping around us is the worst way. Filling your life with new experiences is the best way. Find an outlet for your pain. You can learn to swim, bike, cook or even take dance classes. It’s good to cry, but crying is not a hobby.
- You may find that you like cooking, coffee, or other exciting things you could not have discovered if you were still in the relationship. Get out of the house and do something you enjoy.
- Have support. Ask your friends for support. Nourish friendships with people you may not have devoted as much attention to. You don’t need to go through this alone. Start spending your time with other people.
- Getting a pet helps if you don’t already have one. Don’t isolate yourself by playing video games and staying all day indoors. Allow people to help you.
- Do things you usually wouldn’t be able to do with your ex. Discover what you like. While in the relationship, you may have had to avoid doing certain things to accommodate your partner’s needs. You’re not with them anymore. You can do what you want—even things they hated.
- If you held back from swimming because they hated swimming, go swimming. It will keep your mind off the pain you’re going through.
- Work on bettering yourself. Instead of attempting to fall in love with someone else to get over your ex, fall in love with yourself. Trying a rebound only gets you into the vicious cycle of breaking up and getting another rebound to cope. It’s not healthy.
- Get into better shape, quit your vices, and get counseling. Move if you have to. Treat yourself as kindly as you would your partner. Identify your strengths and weaknesses. Then focus on working on your weaknesses one at a time.
It is not only possible but also healthy to get over old relationships. None of those, as mentioned above, is easy to do after a painful breakup. You need to have the willpower to get over someone. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get over the relationship as quickly as you want to.
Nostalgia means that we usually remember the experience more than we miss the person. Time will help you heal eventually, but it happens faster if you keep yourself occupied. It’s a mourning process that will not always be easy. You can still love the person, but you have to get over the breakup.
Let yourself be sad and mourn. It takes time, and the pain may never entirely disappear. That doesn’t mean you can’t be happy again.
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